I've been trying so hard, but it seems difficult for me to understand Nigerian version of feminism

I've been trying so hard, but it seems difficult for me to understand Nigerian version of feminism. I know what the actual feminism is, and what it entails, but it is so different from what I've been seeing around here. Nigerian version of feminists are mostly those who men don show shege pro max, and they in turn, de*test men and want to use every single opportunity they get, to de*mean men 🤦‍♀🤦‍♀🤦‍♀ I've studied most of them, and found out that, they are usually a different person online, and a different person offline. They come online to tell you how you and your husband should be dragg!ng power in your home. How both of you are the head and the same captain in your ship. How it is wrong for you to warm up your husbands meal, when your husband has two hands 🤦‍♀ The only thing left for them to drag with men is their pen!s. In fact, they tell you that marriage is not on the list of things bothering them, but behind closed doors, they are doing everything they told you online not to do. Do I blame them? NO!!! I BLAME THE YOUNG LADIES LISTENING AND TAKING THEM SERIOUS. I don't know if it's just me, or how I was brought up, but, I am a traditional woman. The type they call pickme. I believe in the traditional modern of marriage. I believe in a man being the head of the family. I don't even want that position. Why would I drag the head of the family, when I can simply be the Lolo of the house ☺ I believe that a woman's place is at her husbands house. Even though, marriage is not for everyone, and might not count as an achievement for some, but I'll definitely say that a good marriage is a great achievement. They come online to tell you that you don't need a man, and that you can just have a baby and single handedly raise your child to prove that you are a woman-man. While this is some people's personal decisions, due to one or two things that has happened in their lives, it should be personal. It's not something you come online and encourage young girls to do. It's not right. Irrespective of the fact that we now see everything as normal, but it's really not normal. A man is a Man. A woman is a woman. Isn't it surprising that these same feminists, go offline and hustle for their own men? They get married and is respecting their husbands in order to keep their families together, while you wey dey listen to them, will be going around using bad behavior to chase your suitors away, in the name of I can't settle for less 🤣🤣🤣 I'm not saying you should jump on any suitor that comes knocking on your door, but rather, do whatever you want to do respectfully, and be sure you are doing it because you want to, and not because one person somewhere who just finished four rounds picked up her phone to type men are tras*h, and you will mumuly tras*h your own good man. Make una sha dey use una head. They are feminists until they marry and you'll start seeing, my husband this, my husband that. There's a saying in igbo that says, "Atuolu omaru, omalu, atuolu ofeke ofenye isi n'ofia. " Kachifonu ooo umu chukwu. I pause.